People work under egos and guard this ego. Imagine being in a country where egos are promoted to be manipulated further. How will you react? How will you adapt to it? How will you make relationships with people driven by their egos?

Today is the teaching lesson about it! HOW TO SURVIVE the ENDEMIC EGOs World of manipulated people!

First of all, you must understand and adapt to this environment. It could be a household, friends, school, job, groups, or even the whole society. Now you know, you are surrounded by people with huge egos, or the entire place or society is guided by it. Egos could come from small talks like “I am the best at cutting bread” to huge tasks like “No one is a better president than me,” or “No other country is better than this one.” As soon as you recognize the ego triggers, you will be able to avoid them!

What drives the egos of the people around you? What drives the ego of this country? What about this group? What triggers their ego response? Is it when you don’t give them recognition, power, status, or something else? What do you need to avoid to prevent a triggered ego response? Understanding their triggers can help you navigate interactions more effectively.

I will tell you mine: It is when you tell me that I am fat. For women, being called fat, “a cow” as my British friends call me, or a “whale” triggers my poor woman response, LOL. Do you know your triggers? What switches your trigger ego buttons?

Now that you know people’s ego triggers, and you need to do this assessment fast (be careful with cultural triggers, professional ones, personality ones, and mental health illness ones; anything can be a trigger in an insecure environment and for traumatized people), you MUST show respect and acknowledge achievements, to people, groups, or even society (as bad as they could be, LOL).

People, groups, and societies with strong egos often seek validation. Acknowledge their achievements and show respect for their contributions. This can build goodwill and make them more amenable to your ideas. You can’t compare US democracy with a socialist life, but what you can do is give validation to the social egos of both if you want to live in peace. In simple words, see the good side and communicate it to both sides, even if they are different. So appreciate freedom of speech on one, and the quality of air in the other one. But never ever give false appreciations or purposely trigger their egos. You must be smart to live in peace!

It is not hard to be humble and grounded, and it means keeping oneself in check 24/7. If you become tired of it, take a day off, go for a vacation out of the country. But you MUST stay humble and grounded, anytime, in any condition.

Every single time I meet someone, I personally think, “Here we go again – what trigger does this ego have?” And it is the question that you MUST ask every single time.

It will save you from so many problems and give you a peaceful life!

Keep your own ego in check. Humility can be disarming and can help you avoid unnecessary conflicts. And it will also set a positive example.

As soon as you know that a person, group, or country suffers from a huge ego, listen actively.

Show genuine interest in what others say. Active listening can make people feel valued and respected, which can soften their defensive, ego-driven behaviors.

And if you don’t want to do it or your personality is incompatible with it, AVOID. Take a day off, move out, reschedule, etc. You will be much more appreciated when people see that you try to avoid conflict, than when you try to start it! (No wars with big egos)! RESPECT!

As soon as you have assessed and know the triggers of the big egos, then and only then, is the time to build up the relationships. First of all, you must find a common ground. Like a fluffy dog. Next time, please don’t do it again. Muscles, tattoos, and dogs are not common ground with a professional woman. She can accept the game and you will not build up a relationship but waste time and start a ping-pong game, believing that you will, while she spends her time looking at your strategy, LOL.

Look for a true and real common ground, based on your good assessment from step one, mutual interest, or shared goals. Building relationships on common ground can create a sense of partnership and reduce ego-driven competition.

The words for WINNERS are “I WILL NOT COMPETE WITH YOU!” But I can offer help and support! Are you ready for it? You must have really open and genuine communication offering help on tasks or projects. Acts of support can break down barriers and foster a sense of camaraderie.

And everything starts with communication. But trust me, it doesn’t matter! Help is help and no words matter! Be clear and concise in your help (communication). Avoid misunderstandings that could trigger ego-driven responses. The result will speak for you! And be patient! PATIENCE! Building relationships in an ego-driven environment (people, groups, workplaces, or countries) takes time. Be patient and consistent in your efforts to connect with others. Assess and first-time connect and act is one type of personality of actors. Building up relationships is another type of personality of actors. If you mix these two, you are prone to disaster.

Imagine that you are a newcomer in a new country. The first one you meet is the welcoming one that knows you well, charms you, acts on your first wishes, and connects you further with others who will develop this relationship. And of course, write a report about it, LOL.

But if you send someone skilled in developing relationships BUT NOT on professional intake, then you will have a relationship that never started on good grounds.

Ask yourself which “department” you belong to and what skills you have.

Keep that damned dog away! It is not my style, LOL!

And if everything is going okay, CONGRATULATIONS, you are in. Do you have a strategy for what you will do when you are in? Or will you play by ear? LOL.

Always keep yourself grounded; you are in an ego field. Choose your battles! If you see something bad (you don’t see it), you hear something bad (you don’t hear it), and speak with HIGH caution.

Not every issue is worth confronting. Be strategic about when to stand your ground and when to let things go. Focus on what’s truly important, EVEN WHEN YOU ARE ATTACKED! You must leverage ego to your advantage. Use people’s egos to motivate them. Frame tasks or projects in a way that appeals to their desire for recognition or status.

Again, frame tasks and projects in a way that appeals to their desire for recognition or status. This is how you avoid starting and stopping any war.

Stay professional (and you must know what professional means in that place, country, culture, group), because what is professional in the East is not in the West, and more. This can earn you respect and make it easier to navigate ego-driven environments.

And never forget to build alliances (THIS for THAT is the word, because no one will give you or support you for free). Form alliances with others who understand the dynamics and can offer support. A network of allies can provide a buffer against ego-driven behaviors. And if it is NOT your skill to build alliances, it is a skill that MUST LEARN. Because in no world can you survive without STRONG alliances.

Life is good, and YOU are the only one in control of your life. As soon as you assess the environment around you correctly, you will know where you are and what strategies to adopt.

These are the strategies for ego-driven environments, whether they are families and households, friends’ relationships, schools, workplaces, communities, churches, groups, or even countries.

EGO protects you. But when ego-driven groups hurt their members, always.

And you must know it and prevent it from happening to you!

Because you are BEAUTIFUL and you DESERVE a fair and good life!